Twelve Conversation Starters for a Healthier Understanding

Having healthy relationships starts with understanding and communication. It helps to examine how you feel about issues, and hear what others have to say. One way is to explore ideas with a group of friends who are comfortable talking together about these things. Here are some questions to get the conversation rolling. Don’t be afraid to disagree, and remember to listen and consider everyone’s opinion—you’re sure to have a lively conversation, and the responses and results might surprise you!

1. How do you decide if you like someone romantically?
2. How do you decide to trust someone?
3. How far can people go sexually with each other, and still stop?
4. Do you think girls/guys ever have sex when they don’t really want to? Why?
5. What do you think about someone who uses pressure to get sex?
6. If someone spends a lot of money on you during a date, do you owe him/her something?
7. Is being whistled at or having sexual comments made to you a good thing or a bad thing? Why?
8. Why do people feel jealous? What should you do if you feel jealous?
9. Is it okay to have sex with someone you don’t love?
10. What is the best way to break up with someone? What’s the best way to act if someone breaks up with you?
11. What if you try to break up with someone, and they don’t want let you, or they keep hassling, bothering or threatening you?
12. How can you be sure someone has consented to sex?