What is bullying? What is harassment?
Bullying and harassment are methods of misusing power to degrade, humiliate and hurt someone.
Bullying is cruel, hurtful behavior that is not based on discrimination.
Harassment is discrimination that involves characteristics protected by Canada’s Human Rights Act –ethnicity, religion, age, sex, family status, disability and sexual orientation.
Bullying and harassment can be:
- PHYSICAL: touching someone in a way they don’t want or using (or threatening to use) violence against them
- VERBAL: taunting, insulting or laughing at someone
- RELATIONAL: starting nasty rumours about someone or not letting them hang out with you and your friends
- CYBER: using the Internet to send unwanted messages to someone, mock them or ruin their reputation
Everyone has rights and responsibilities
Your rights are to:
- be treated fairly and with respect
- feel safe
- be included in groups and activities
- ask for help whenyou need it
- say 'no' to unwanted behaviour
- make your own decisions (with support from the adults you trust)
- be protected from bullying and harassment
- make truthful complaints
- be informed of complaints made about you
- have both sides of an issue or argumentheard
- be informed of consequences that affect you
- have a fair appeal process
- have a supportive adult speak for you
Your responsibilities are to:
- treat others fairly and with respect
- include and welcome others
- help protect yourself from harm
- respect other peoples' boundaries
- give help when needed
- listen when others say "No"
- not overpower, bully, harass or abuse anyone
- controlyour anger
- report mistreatment of other people
- listen to yourself and get help if something seems wrong
- let people make their own decisions
Ratting versus telling: there is a difference
- Ratting is done to get others in trouble.
- Ratting hopes to create a problem for someone else.
- Telling is done to get help, to take care of yourself or someone else.
- Telling tries to solve a problem.
- Ratting says "I want to hurt!"
- Telling says "Please help!"
For more information on the Canadian Red Cross Beyond the Hurt bullying prevention program for youth, contact the Canadian Red Cross office nearest you, or email firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
Download our new Beyond the Hurt brochure (PDF, 323kb).
Posted November 7, 2007